Why not be upfront
I do not get why there are people who go on the apps and state things like “ready to settle down” or “looking for a long-term relationship” or “want to be married” but then are not looking for that. There are plenty of men and women who do want just a fling or FWB type deal. Why do you need to step into the territory of those not looking for that?
Then they breadcrumb you with just enough attention and time to make you wonder if it is you. I hear this from many people I have spoken to about being single and trying to date. I know a lot of people feel hurt from previous relationships they most likely should have ended sooner than they did… And I just don’t understand the need to do this to people and why we keep falling for this.
I guess we justify poor behaviour because the rest of the time they’re nice but actions and behaviours speak more than the words they say.
So all of you out there hurting and not understanding why this dating thing is so hard… It is true because people are not who they say they are but are who they show you. Stop telling yourself they’re busy, you wanting their time makes you needy, or any of that. Someone who truly wants you in their life will do what they can when they can to have you in it.