To the Step-parent that hates their kids
The recent post about the step-parent that hated their kids received a lot of flack. Granted, the words were pretty harsh, but I wanted to share with people that stepparents do have it much harder than bio parents. They face many challenges that bio parents take for granted. The statistics around second marriages support this. I commend those who are able to make it work. I work in a public school here in Sudbury and see this to varying degrees. I can honestly say from what I have seen, the bio mothers cause more grief than any other party in the blended family. We see bio moms try to exclude the fathers and step-mothers all the time and every year, at least one kid “privately” makes a mother’s day card for their stepmother because the bio mom isn’t secure enough or having for the child to have another person in their lives love their kid. It is really sad. While I don’t agree that the parent should have said “hate”, I can see how they could feel like no matter what they do, they are always at the shitty end of the stick. I hope whoever you are, you get some help. I think you really care about your kids, because you have given a lot and it was obvious, at least to me. Shoutout to all the stepparents who are loving/caring for kids who aren’t biologically theirs! Shoutout to all the stepparents who are doing this, despite being pushed aside or made to be the “evil stepparent” and shoutout to the bio moms who love their kids enough to see the value in having other people love their kids and treat them so well!