My Daughter Wants To Take Testosterone
I am looking for some help.
My daughter just started high school. She announced to me yesterday that she is trans and wants to be on testosterone.
I want to be loving and accepting but I also feel strongly that this is not be in her best interest. For one this announcement has come out of nowhere. Never before had she expressed any discomfort about being a girl, although she’s had some stereotypically “male” interests like sports, and was a bit more of a tomboy.
The testosterone worries me greatly because of the health side effects, the scariest being infertility but also the much higher risk of heart attack, bone density issues, etc. I have been reading up on this all day. I am worried is a major understatement. I think she is much too young to be making these life-altering decisions. She said she doesn’t need my consent to get the hormones, which is technically true based on what I read.
All I can really do is stand by and watch her it seems. I feel powerless. I want to protect her from making a decision she might regret but her mind seems set on this and her friends are encouraging her. Her teacher too apparently.
To me it seems like the transgender thing is just reinforcing gender stereotypes. I understand that a grown man/woman might feel better living as the opposite sex, and I am supportive of adults who want to make that decision, as they might understand the risks involved to a higher degree, but teenagers are just figuring themselves out.
It feels like kids are being taught that there is a specific way to be a girl/woman, one way to be a boy/man, and that if they are gender non-conforming then they might literally BE the other sex. I think it is tragic that they’ve truly been made to feel that they need to take drugs to be their authentic self. Adults should be protecting children from this kind of harm, and teaching them that they can be gender non-conforming without taking drugs that will end up really hurting them in the end.
I’d love any advice you can offer me. What would you do if you were me?