My children have a half brother that nobody knows about but me. What would you do?
Hello folks. Try your best to not pass judgment please. I’m asking because this is not a common situation. Here is the story;
I have children by a man who is (by personal choice) entirely absent from their lives. This same man has an older child in the same city who also was abandoned by him as a baby. Would you wait until your kids are older to approach the other child’s parents to let them know that he has siblings (would never approach child themselves as I have no idea if they know whether or not the dad is biological or not) but just to let the parents know? Would you let them know earlier? I realize this man’s past is not my business. But my children have a sibling and I think it’s important for them all to know someday. I just don’t know when or how to approach this unthinkable situation. I will also add that the other child is almost an adult.
Thank you if anyone has any kind advice to give. I would rather not hear about anything negative. It’s a serious matter and I’m wondering what others would do if it were them just for some perspective. I have know for a long time about this and I know who the child’s parents are. I’m sure they have no idea that my children exist. I do not want to disrupt their lives. I’m so torn. Has anyone been here before? Thank you and bless you for your time.