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Letter to other women slut

Honestly, just what the f&$k were you thinking? You knew he was married. You knew he had children. You knew he slept beside me every night. And you knew that I knew nothing. Is that what made it so delicious? So tempting

Okay, so I looked stupid, at least to you. Is the satisfaction of that worth sacrificing your own dignity? Because, really,  how can you have any dignity when you’re pulling on your panties knowing he is coming home to me every night, weekend, holiday?

And frankly, though I might have looked stupid, and perhaps pitiful, to you…and some less-than-compassionate others, I’ll take stupid over sleazy and low and cruel any day of the week. No matter how awful it felt to be me when I found out, I’d still take that over being you. No matter that my eyes were practically swollen shut from crying, I could still look myself square in the mirror without shame.

Did you think it was simply a matter of time? That you would be appealing enough for him to walk away from the life he’d built.  Did you really believe that any relationship based on deception would deliver you from your unhappiness?

My guess is, yes, you did. My guess is that very few Other Women honestly admit their role as an accomplice in the intentional hurting and decepition of another human being. Often another human being you don’t know. Or barely know. Or perhaps, shockingly, know well. Instead, they sell themselves clichés. Something along the lines of “we’re soulmates”, “we couldn’t help ourselves”, “the chemistry was too powerful” or “you can’t stop love.” All of which, I suspect you recognize on some level, is total bullshit. All of which allows you to divorce your abhorrent actions from your intent. “We didn’t mean to hurt anyone,” you wail.

Oh. Yes. You. Did.

Because you knew. You knew that I was being hurt, even if I didn’t yet know it. You knew I was being lied to. And betrayed. And you participated in that. Knowingly. Willingly. Perhaps even happily.
What’s more, my children were being hurt. And though I don’t expect you to take total responsibility for that (after all, HE was their father), you nonetheless contributed to the potential dissolution of their family.

And for what?

Was the sex that good? Were the feelings of superiority, if only for the brief time he was with you, so intoxicating that it made all the humiliating departures, all the embarrassment when you were caught, all the shame this no doubt triggered, worth it?

And if he left me for you? What would you have gained? . A man who would eventually resent you because he lost his family, his grandchildren, not to mention his home and friends forced to choose sides.

In our case, you were shocked when he, after being caught and given the choice between me or you, didn’t hesitate. Not for a second. And, believe it or not, my heart went out to your children. They are innocent victims of your bad choices. My children are working hard to forgive, I hope yours can do the same.

Though I raged at you in my head, loathed the look of you, wanted to spit each time I said your name, and shower each time I imagined you two together, I nonetheless felt a sliver of pity for you. You are such an unhappy person you sought to destroy ours.

We are finding our way back through hard work and determination and will eventually have our family whole again. As much as you disgust me  if your family is willing to forgive you , then I hope your family heals, you learn from this and never leave a path of destruction in your wake again.

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  1. Anonymous says:

    kick the jabroni to the curb, once a cheater, always a cheater

  2. Anonymous says:

    To the poster – you should read a book “After the affair” by Janis Spring. This might help in your healing process. I understand that it takes 2 however women who take anything further with a married man regardless of who initiates it are deplorable. An embarrassment to womankind. If children are involved and she knows it…..there isn’t a word to describe how selfish that is. What about motherly instinct, the kids are the last thing on her mind when they should be the very first in that situation. Good luck with your journey. I wish there were more women, especially here in Sudbury that would try and live up to your standards. Seems like there is an awful lot that just don’t care, selfish!!!!!!

  3. Anonymous says:

    There both whores and sluts….love your chlldren and move on.

  4. Anonymous says:

    This is total bullshit. Rename your rant “the husband that fucked another woman, got caught and was forgoven by the stupid wife”

    Your blame, pity, anger is directed at the wrong person.

    The worst part of all this is yes, you are stupid. Why oh because YOU TOOK HIM BACK.

    You will always wonder if he thinks of her when he fucks you. If he contacts her behind your back, if he is fucking someone else. I know this because he already lied to you, he already got his dick wet while coming home to you. He already told another woman he loves her. He already told another woman that you mean NOTHING TO HIM.

    Always remember actions speak louder than words. He told you how he feels with his actions.

    And him keeping his “family” together is another lie. The resentment, distrust, anger and fear will now be the basis of your family. He will come to replace his guilt with resentment for being trapped in this marriage, “for the kids”.

    Wake up. Put your crown on. Stand tall and take your power back.
    You will get through this. Your children will get through it. But not with him. Not this way. Embrace the fear, embrace the unknown. I promise you the hurt will fade, the fear will fade, and you will be a stronger and healthier version of yourself. You can do this alone. You can raise your kids alone. And one day you will find a man who deserves your love. He is NOT him. He never will be him.

    The lover and the husband are one and the same. Noone can steal your man. He walks away.

    Its your turn to walk away. Your turn to realise he isn’t good enough for a woman like you. He doesn’t even come close.

    So pick your crown up, dust it off and start your new life. Women like me are watching, cheering for you and sending you strength.

    Just stop blaming the wrong person. She was weak, the same way you are now. She fell for his charm, his lies, his excuses. He played you both. He made his choices. Watch which ones you make.

    • Anonymous says:

      Holy hell you are an angry one. Just because you couldn’t make it work doean’t mean someone else can’t. I can’t believe you are shaming this woman for attempting to work on her marriage. This woman’s mind is made up and she clearly didn’t post this looking for opinions, so back off. She posted her rage on an anonymous forum without naming anyone. Let the girl vent. It’s probably therapeutic. It is her business alone to decide whether to continue in her marriage or not, and it is NOT an indication of weakness. And she can still stand tall and wear her crown.

      • Anonymous says:

        Oh yes she did post looking for comments idiot!!!

        Otherwise don’t tell the world your problems. Seems fucking easy to me.

        Yes I’m angry. Blaming another woman for your problems is foolish and stupid and sad as fuck.

      • Anonymous says:

        Your anger gives you away.

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