Grandparents and favoritism

Can anyone relate to this? My partner and I have a blended family. We both had a child of our own when we got into a relationship and now we have 1 together. In total we have 2 school aged kids and a toddler. My partners mother only ever asks to see her eldest (blood) grandchild. She has other grandchildren that she babysits often but when it comes to mine and my partners kids she barely ever asks about our youngest. Yet she calls every other weekend to spend time with the oldest and take him for sleepovers.

I don’t understand why she can’t be bothered with our toddler. She even gets mad when I mention that maybe she should make an effort to include the youngest. After all they are also blood relatives.

I apologize for the rant. I just find this very frustrating. Even my older children are starting to notice the obvious favoritism and I feel like there’s nothing I can do to help make this fair. We could refuse her visits with the oldest but that’s really not what I want to do. I think children should be surrounded with as much love as they can get. I just want my youngest to feel like he matters too. Thanks for listening.



1 Response

  1. Anonymous says:

    I get this. I was born a bastard (out of wedlock) and to this day some people still look at me dirty if they find out this fact, like I’m dirty or something. The older generation thinks you are a devil spawn for being born wrong. Oh well, sucks to be them.