Ex problems. Too old for this stuff.
Sometimes things aren’t always as they seem or as they’re told. Many times the whole story isn’t explained or one side gets embellished.
My predicament was one I take full responsibility for but I wasn’t who my ex made me out to be.
We started our “relationship” if that’s what you’d call it, as friends and he would make advances at me. I took one advancement later on and we stayed pretty sexual for years, although I was always vocal about how I wanted much more. Trust me I would have walked away had he not made it vocal also that he was wanting exclusivity but that one day we will be more than just booty calls.
I mostly kept up with the festivities thinking we would eventually move in together but years passed and that never happened. We broke up like it was going out of style, regularly. I was always telling him to stay away and stop calling let’s just end it and be friends since obviously my version of exclusivity was much different than his. Plus he was always spending time with other women. Yes he said they were just friends but I was looking to further advance our connection and solidify our bond so I wasn’t happy about all the time he spent with the other women friends. Then we’d wind up right back with each other sexing it up again as adults sometimes do but I still wanted more.
Anyways long story short, before I became pregnant I was hanging out with a male friend (purely friends) although he might have wanted more but I didn’t. I just needed a friend. The booty call bf found out and acted like he was surprised & upset etc. Even thought I broke up with him several times since he wasn’t ever ready for what i wanted. Fast forward to present we now have a baby & He’s always bashing me and telling his new girlfriend I’m horrible cheater etc. We have a child together. A beautiful human being came from us and we have to coparent. I just wish he’d let go of his pent up anger and grudges formed from a time before we met so that he can stop bashing me to his friends and his new girlfriend because it isn’t right. I haven’t been interested in dating anyone obviously since I just don’t have any interest or time while being mom. When I’m ready to start dating I will. To the exes out there who constantly bash their exes and don’t tell the whole story, please stop. Because the only one you’re hurting in the long run is yourself and your child with the little white lies and the pent up anger. If it didn’t work out so be it. If she or he did things you didnt like so be it. But move on and just focus on your beautiful child & yourself. It takes 2 to tango. Bashing another just shows how low you’re willing to stoop. And trust in a town like Sudbury, it’s like playing telephone and they just eat this shit right up. They love gossip and they love rumours. I don’t gossip or spread rumours. I’d prefer the same respect. We’re adults. Be good to he child and act accordingly in front of her & all will be dandy. I promise to do the same of course.