I am a single man in my mid 30s and I have been going on dates for over 2 years now. In this time I have noticed a few trends and I need to ask women of Sudbury if this is the norm(and I just need to suck it up or be alone) or if I just have bad luck(and need to find a better place to meet women).
1. Single women are mentally needy. It is so hard to find a women who is truly independent. Do women really need constant reassurance. I have dated a few women now who could not understand why I don’t text them all day everyday. I have a life, I work, I have kids, I have hobbies, and I enjoy my downtime. I hate responding to my phone 24/7. Especially when the text is about nothing. “Don’t you just hate so and so on this show.” “Hello.” “Why are you ignoring me.” “Have you lost interest.” Like no I was taking a shower and you couldn’t wait 5 minutes for a reply and I don’t watch that show. “Who you showering for?” Urg, this is just an example but ladies, we don’t like texting. Most of us hate it in fact. Plus if we are talking to you 23/7 then when we see each other we have nothing to talk about. Give us some space, get a hobbie, accept that we make time for you when we can and that we are obviously interested if we are dating you. This is unattractive.
2. Single women are financially needy and clueless when it comes to money. Being a full time mommy on welfare is not a full time job. I work over 40+ hours a week and raise my kids on my own. That’s why I can afford to buy the things I have. Being on welfare, living in housing and planning a trip to the Bahamas just doesn’t make sense. “I’m broke this week though can you drive me, buy this for me, pay for everything, and when can me and my kids move in with you.” I actually had one tell me she was homeless and wanting be my girlfriend to get out of the cold. This is unattractive.
3. Single women fall in love way to fast. I have had 3 women claim they loved me after less then 4 dates. This screams mental health issues and is unattractive.
4. Single women want to meet my kids way to fast. Listen, my kids are number 1. My kids do not need women in and out of their lives. Your kids do not need men in and out of their lives. This causes so many mental issues they will need to work out in therapy. Just stop doing it. It’s not attractive and it shows how bad of a parent you are. I know you want to see if we will get along as whole family, but please let us see if we get along first.
5. Single women want to rush everything. What’s wrong with a cup of coffee, then a dinner date, then a movie, then skating, then more dates before rushing into bed, being a family, or meeting my parents. I barely know you, we just meet. Why can’t we take time to get to know each other before rushing into a life long commitment. This is unattractive and makes you seem needy.
6. Single women don’t know what they want but rush into it anyways. Trying to change someone is wrong. If you meet a guy with a great job, financially successful, attractive and great dad but can’t stand that he loves to fish. Don’t try to change him. Leave if you can’t stand it. Also don’t get with a guy who loves to fish if you hate it. You’re wasting both of your time. This is unattractive and wrong.
7. Single women rush from guy to guy with little downtime in between. Ladies heal from your last guy before finding another. I am not him. I didn’t cheat on you. I didn’t yell at you. I didn’t steal your bank card. Whatever drama and baggage you got from him let it go before trying to find a new man. Nothing is more unattractive then hearing about the ex all the time.
8. Single women don’t want to commit. “I want you to be my man but I am not your women.” You can’t date anyone else but I’ll be out tonight with my girlfriends and may or may not come see you if I don’t find a piece tonight. This is not attractive in the slightest. If you can be wild and free so can we.
So in closing. Again I asked the ladies of Sudbury if these things are normal and I just need to suck it up or be alone the rest of my life. I’m a catch I know I am and I am not going to waste it on one of these types. So how do I find a women who isn’t one of these types. Do they even exist or does every women in this day and age have mental issues and I just need to accept it?