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Cheating Is Cheating. You Can’t Be Unfaithful To Your Partner And Call Yourself A Good Person

There are many cases of people in happy marriages who have a great partner, amazing children, successful careers, loyal friends and still feel like there is something missing from their lives. They have a partner who is an attentive, charming, fit, beautiful, kind, and amazing lover and parent, and yet still get attracted to someone completely opposite who threats to destroy everything they’ve built.

When marriage was invented, so was adultery. In the US, when an affair happens, everyone is concerned for the victim of the betrayal, because affairs are the grand destroyers of the perception of romantic love and the hopes of happily ever after. Infidelity, when it occurs, comes as a shock that shatters everything and makes us question our past, present, future, and our identity as well.

All kinds of betrayals hurt. But a betrayal from a romantic partner and spouse cuts like a knife and leaves wounds everywhere. And because of social media, this pain would be felt over and over again thanks to the reminders of text messages, pictures, and any kind of electronic evidence the victim finds in the phone of their beloved.

Understandably, our culture is more empathetic towards the jilted. However, psychologists teach us that in the wake of an affair, it is essential to see the affair from both sides. After all, they say affairs can reveal a lot about marriage and partnerships and even improve them in some way. And here’s why I don’t agree with them.

They say that affairs are not what they used to be in the past because the course of marriage has changed drastically over the years. In the past, marriage ensured economic stability, while today most couples don’t marry for economic gains, but to have a companion for life. So, today, marriage is not based on obligation and duty, but on respect, affection, and love.

When we get married, we expect our partner to still have the traditional values such as security, property, respectability, and children, but we also want them to be our lover, best friend, confidant, partner-in-crime, and the love of our life.

We want passion, novelty, fun, comfort, mystery, stability, adventure, and familiarity. We are also living in an age where we no longer consider sex as something sinful. Whereas in the past, people got married and had sex, now we get married and stop having sex with other people. We have already been dating, hooked up, lived together, been in a relationship, and broken up many times…

Now, when partners are saying their wedding vows, they swear to always be there for each other in good and bad, sickness and health, wealth and poverty… They promise to be faithful and love each other forever. So, in such bliss, the question arises: Why do they cheat? Especially if they say their marriage is a happy one…

People in both good and bad marriages cheat. The freedom of choice and the possibility of divorce has not stopped cheating. Why is that? Why do happy people cheat? Why would someone risk losing the love of their life and destroy their marriage for an affair?

Cheating Is Cheating.

Many people blame their spouse for it. They confess that the affair has made them feel alive, something they haven’t felt for a long time with their partner. And for many of them, an affair was their quest for themselves and their lost or new identity. Therefore, their unfaithfulness, in a way, is their way of exploration, transformation, and growth.

But cheaters and psychologists can defend and try to find excuses and reasons for infidelity all they want, for me, cheating is cheating and there is no excuse for it. It is selfish, cruel, and extremely abusive. There are no words that can describe the pain that the betrayed one is feeling. It’s like shooting someone with a bullet at their most vulnerable spot and leaving them bleeding and in agony.

For me, infidelity is not a crisis of identity. It is a conscious choice. It is a risk someone willingly takes, and it is not fair to the other person. No one deserves to be hurt like that.

Stop with the excuses. Stop with the craziness. If you feel like you lack something in your relationship – say it! Work on it together with your partner. Be a reasonable human being.

If you are no longer in love with your partner, be honest with them. Cheating is never a solution. And no one, I repeat, no one has the right to inflict such great amount of pain to another person and destroy their hopes and views of love. It is not human. It is devilish and cruel.

You can’t cheat on your partner and call yourself a good person. And no, you don’t love them. You are only looking to fulfill your selfish needs without thinking about them and their feelings.

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  1. Im not proof reading your essay

  2. Story of my last relationship lmao

  3. People cheat for multiple reasons. And just because someone cheats doesnt classify them a bad person. Cheating is wrong but what someone chooses to do in their romantic relationships doesnt automatically categorize them as “bad”. I’m sorry you went thru what you did but you cannot throw everyone under the bus because you are hurt.

  4. Holly L Good Holly L Good says:

    People cheat cause they want that one nite or few nites of a honey moon stage, just like new relationship for the first few months and then u see there true colors

  5. Wow. That’s so well written & certainly captures cheating for what it really is. . U are so right – cheating is cheating !

  6. Anyone else NOT read that long ass book?! No thanks.

  7. Soooo true… some people really need to read this.

  8. Absolutely guilty and take 50% blame in my failed one.

  9. Once a cheater always a cheater!

  10. Best thing to do is keep your self busy. And force the feelings out and slowly let the pain back in a little bit at a time.

  11. Worth every minute i spent ready! I’m sorry you had to go through this brutal pain. Why are people so disrespectful (comments included) to each other is beyond me. Why so much hate? Why are we not building each other up rather then waisting our time being negative. What’s wrong with society today?

  12. Tara Major Tara Major says:

    Long. But very well said

  13. Renee Di Renee Di says:

    Some broads just let their bfs screw all kinds of people. They seriously lack respect for themselves.

  14. Derek Vernon Derek Vernon says:

    I take it someone got cheated on lol

  15. https://youtu.be/HgAL4L1sXtg

    Haha rick opens the fridge, shakes the soda, puts it back, then takes orange juice. Haha

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